Will Therapy Fix Me?
The short answer is NO! Because you do not need fixing. You are not a broken machine, you are a human being and what you need is to be heard, validated and understood. There will be healing but there is no quick fix to experiencing emotional distress and looking to therapy for this will only cause disappointment.
We live in a culture that constantly tells us that we are not good enough in order to sell us material items that we believe will improve our lives and make us feel whole. They need us to believe that we are inadequate or broken in order for us to long for the things they are selling. Social media and comparison to others exacerbates this, making us aware of the things we don't have in our lives and this becomes a focus for our minds, reinforcing the idea that we are not good enough as we are. This does not mean you are not experiencing pain, it just means that there is no quick fix you can buy that will heal the pain... despite what society would have you believe.
This doesn't mean that therapy doesn't help and if you are experiencing emotional distress I encourage you to give it a go. Therapy works (science shows it works just as well if not better than medication in treating anxiety & depression) and it teaches you skills that you can carry forwards and apply to areas in your life long after you finish sessions with your therapist. A good therapist will make sure you are listened to and given a chance to explain your story and your experiences, they will ensure that you are respected and understood. This relationship with another human being is what is healing as it makes us feel validated and connected, and often we realise that we are not alone or terribly different from others for feeling the way we do. It can be very reassuring to realise that your pain and hurt is a normal part of life and we all experience it at some point. They will also notice patterns in your thinking or behaviour that may be causing you issues and help you to develop skills in order to change your way of thinking and responding in the future. Giving you tools that will aid you outside of the therapy room.
Therapy is not always easy and does take a level of commitment from the client. Sometimes it can be difficult to explore painful experiences or to have your awareness drawn to your own behaviour and actions that may be affecting your life. I know this because I have had plenty of therapy myself! Sometimes therapy can feel unpleasant and challenging but often this is the process of growth, and actually can be a sign that therapy is working. After all, you want things to change and that is why you have come to therapy. However I always encourage you to speak about these emotions with your therapist when they come up - they are important and valid and they may help with the process of understanding what is going on emotionally for you. Therapy should always be on your terms as the client, your therapist is there to help you and facilitate your growth but only you are the expert on you!
I am an Integrative Therapist who works remotely online with millennials who are anxious, lost, stressed or depressed. I work collaboratively with people to support them in their emotional wellbeing, to develop skills in self-care and to foster a deeper understanding of themselves. If would like to find out how I can help you, please book a free consultation to see if we are well suited to work together.
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